Trina Zeljak Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT Resources

Good Reading Material

The Power of Validation: Arming Your Child Against Bullying, Peer Pressure, Addiction, Self-Harm, and Out-of-Control Emotions

Validation—recognizing and accepting your child’s thoughts and feelings, regardless of whether or not you feel that your child should be experiencing them—helps children develop a lifelong sense of self-worth. Children who are validated feel reassured that they will be accepted and loved regardless of their feelings, while children who are not validated are more vulnerable to peer pressure, bullying, and emotional and behavioral problems.

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

Your toddler throws a tantrum in the middle of a store. Your preschooler refuses to get dressed. Your fifth-grader sulks on the bench instead of playing on the field. Do children conspire to make their parents’ lives endlessly challenging? No—it’s just their developing brain calling the shots!

No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The pioneering experts behind The Whole-Brain Child—Tina Payne Bryson and Daniel J. Siegel, the author of Brainstorm—now explore the ultimate child-raising challenge: discipline.

The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups

In The Collapse of Parenting, Leonard Sax, an acclaimed expert on parenting and childhood development, identifies a key problem plaguing American children, especially relative to other countries: the dramatic decline in young people’s achievement and psychological health. The root of this problem, Sax contends, lies in the transfer of authority from parents to their children, a shift that has been occurring over the last 50 years and is now impossible to ignore.

How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure. . . . A must-read for every parent who senses that there is a healthier and saner way to raise our children.” -Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times bestsellers The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children…

I Love You Rituals

Love You Rituals offers more than seventy delightful rhymes and games that send the message of unconditional love and enhance children’s social, emotional, and school success.Winner of a 1999 Parent’s Guide Children’s Media Award, these positive nursery rhymes, interactive finger plays, soothing games, and physically active can be played with children from infancy through age eight.

Counterintuitive - What 4 million teenagers wish we knew.: (bite-sized wisdom 4 parents and teachers) 1st Edition

The scope and candor of this book cut to the realities of parenting and teaching while offering hope through practical solutions… a pure joy to read.” Dr. Paul Lewanski, Ed.D., California Teacher of the Year

Parenting with Theraplay

Theraplay® is an attachment-focused model of parenting that helps parents to understand and relate to their child. Based on a sequence of play activities that are rooted in neuroscience, Theraplay offers a fun and easy way for parents and children to connect. Theraplay is particularly effective with looked after and adopted children.

Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life

There’s no such thing as a bad kid. That’s what a lifetime of experience has taught Dr. Stuart Shanker. No matter how difficult, out of control, distracted, or exhausted a child might seem, there’s a way forward: self-regulation. Overturning decades of conventional wisdom, this radical new technique allows children and the adults who care for them to regain their composure and peace of mind.

CD For Helping Kids Relax

Ready... Set... Release!: Music and Relaxation Exercises for Children

Fourteen fun and calming exercises (74 minutes) using music, breathing, muscle relaxation, and active imagination to soothe and release tension for use at home, school before anxiety producing events, bedtime, and anywhere stress reduction or relaxation is needed.

Preschool Clues: Raising Smart, Inspired, and Engaged Kids in a Screen-Filled World

The author covers many subjects relevant to raising pre-school age children, including the need for play, connection, balancing screen time with other activities, and how to communicate with your young, quickly growing child while validating their emotions. The book has many other helpful suggestions regarding age appropriate ways to connect with your child and strengthen family bonds.